Comments for How to Get My Girlfriend Back http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com Get all the tips on "How to get my girlfriend back" Wed, 23 Nov 2011 16:45:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Win Back Your Ex Girlfriend – Write a Letter by Cameron D http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-gf-back-articles/win-back-your-ex-girlfriend-write-a-letter/comment-page-1/#comment-22851 Cameron D Wed, 23 Nov 2011 16:45:28 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=332#comment-22851 Hi exbackcoach, it's me again, I posted something about my relationship back in June. A lot has hapowned since then my friend, pretty much, my girlfriend who I was writing about previously came back to me, I took you're advice and became ruthless. She said she was sorry tur way she ended it and she missed me. So from June through till septemeber things were going AMAZING, I was in love again, I had my baby back with me, I felt on top of the world. Then one day she came to my house crying her eyes out, I asked her what was wrong and she said it's really bad, i thought the obvious 'she's pregnant'. Infact no, it was much worse. She was moving back to canada, where she was born and raised. She lived her in england for 7 years and recently just moved back. She mved back on October 7th, well over a month ago. Before she went she was fine, she told me she still love me and when I asked about what was going To happen between us she always said we'll see how it goes. I felt her getting more distant towards me approaching towards her last few weeks here. Weather or not that was due to her hectic schedule packing and getting ready for the big move. Anyway, she text me before she got on the plane saying boarding now, I'll let you know when I've landed love you xxx. Throughout the next few weeks I felt her getting even more distant with me, writing small little messages, never telling me she missed me or loved me like I was doing to her. Anyway, oneday I asked her what's going on with us, it felt like she was waiting for me to pop the question. As soon as I asked that it changed, she said she couldn't do this, we could still Be friends but she couldn't continue to be my gf. I was heartbroken, she has left me twice now. I continued to write to her telling her how much she ment to me and how much I didn't want her to do this. I did this for about a week, until she replied saying it's pointless Writting you back as I have nothing to say to you. That hurt me deeply. I didn't reply to her again, I deleted the twitter app of my phone and didn't check it once for 2 weeks. I went back on there, she was still following me, I had some different girl write to me during the time I didn't check twitter, I publically replied to her (with my gf it was all done via private message), I wrote back to this girl and that was it for me twitter activity that day. Checked my ex gf's page the following day and she had un-followed me for that. And that's where I currently stand, we haven't spoke to one another in 23 days now and I don't know what to do. I don't want to leave it and never speak to her again because she really was my life. But at the same time I don't like not being her bf. It makes me sad. In a perfect world she would still be with me trying to have a long distance relationship with me. I asked her all the time to try this, I said we'd skype everyday, I'd stay up late cos of the tome difference, I was willing to do anything for her. I said I'd come visit a couple times a year. She wouldn't have non of it. I just feel so lonely now without her her because all I did was spend time with her, everyday I'd be round her house allday. I think I really cared for her and she knew that so she could do anything and I be here for her. I feel stupid aswell, before she left, I bought her a £200 pandora bracelet, I bought it as a goodbye present, to remember me by, and to hopefully keep her with me. I spend a weeks wages on that. She even said she'd send me dome clothes back when she got to Canada as a present for me, never seen them. I just don't k ow what to do excoach? Help me please. I'd love her to take me back and want to try this with me because she didn't not once, we never skyped. I obviously k ow that won't happen, when I girls mind is made up that's it. Also, she's been writing weird messages On Twitter that I think are aimed at me, like 'your the only road I know' 'we found love for a hopeless place' 'cant wait to get the fuck out of here #won'tyousave me' and 'friends are forever until they get I to relationships'. Im aware a few are lyrics but I think she relates to them because of me. I'm in a state at the moment and don't k ow what to do. How do I contact her? I really miss her so bad. She has never called me once, nothing. Is she waiting for me to make the effort and contact her? What should I do, all I do is smoke weed and cry about her at the moment, I'm in a dark place. Please take the time to write me back excoach, your advice last time was brilliant. Thanks Cam d Hi exbackcoach, it’s me again, I posted something about my relationship back in June. A lot has hapowned since then my friend, pretty much, my girlfriend who I was writing about previously came back to me, I took you’re advice and became ruthless. She said she was sorry tur way she ended it and she missed me. So from June through till septemeber things were going AMAZING, I was in love again, I had my baby back with me, I felt on top of the world. Then one day she came to my house crying her eyes out, I asked her what was wrong and she said it’s really bad, i thought the obvious ‘she’s pregnant’. Infact no, it was much worse. She was moving back to canada, where she was born and raised. She lived her in england for 7 years and recently just moved back. She mved back on October 7th, well over a month ago. Before she went she was fine, she told me she still love me and when I asked about what was going To happen between us she always said we’ll see how it goes. I felt her getting more distant towards me approaching towards her last few weeks here. Weather or not that was due to her hectic schedule packing and getting ready for the big move. Anyway, she text me before she got on the plane saying boarding now, I’ll let you know when I’ve landed love you xxx. Throughout the next few weeks I felt her getting even more distant with me, writing small little messages, never telling me she missed me or loved me like I was doing to her. Anyway, oneday I asked her what’s going on with us, it felt like she was waiting for me to pop the question. As soon as I asked that it changed, she said she couldn’t do this, we could still
Be friends but she couldn’t continue to be my gf. I was heartbroken, she has left me twice now. I continued to write to her telling her how much she ment to me and how much I didn’t want her to do this. I did this for about a week, until she replied saying it’s pointless Writting you back as I have nothing to say to you. That hurt me deeply. I didn’t reply to her again, I deleted the twitter app of my phone and didn’t check it once for 2 weeks. I went back on there, she was still following me, I had some different girl write to me during the time I didn’t check twitter, I publically replied to her (with my gf it was all done via private message), I wrote back to this girl and that was it for me twitter activity that day. Checked my ex gf’s page the following day and she had un-followed me for that. And that’s where I currently stand, we haven’t spoke to one another in 23 days now and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave it and never speak to her again because she really was my life. But at the same time I don’t like not being her bf. It makes me sad. In a perfect world she would still be with me trying to have a long distance relationship with me. I asked her all the time to try this, I said we’d skype everyday, I’d stay up late cos of the tome difference, I was willing to do anything for her. I said I’d come visit a couple times a year. She wouldn’t have non of it. I just feel so lonely now without her her because all I did was spend time with her, everyday I’d be round her house allday. I think I really cared for her and she knew that so she could do anything and I be here for her. I feel stupid aswell, before she left, I bought her a £200 pandora bracelet, I bought it as a goodbye present, to remember me by, and to hopefully keep her with me. I spend a weeks wages on that. She even said she’d send me dome clothes back when she got to Canada as a present for me, never seen them. I just don’t k ow what to do excoach? Help me please. I’d love her to take me back and want to try this with me because she didn’t not once, we never skyped. I obviously k ow that won’t happen, when I girls mind is made up that’s it. Also, she’s been writing weird messages On Twitter that I think are aimed at me, like ‘your the only road I know’ ‘we found love for a hopeless place’ ‘cant wait to get the fuck out of here #won’tyousave me’ and ‘friends are forever until they get I to relationships’. Im aware a few are lyrics but I think she relates to them because of me. I’m in a state at the moment and don’t k ow what to do. How do I contact her? I really miss her so bad. She has never called me once, nothing. Is she waiting for me to make the effort and contact her? What should I do, all I do is smoke weed and cry about her at the moment, I’m in a dark place. Please take the time to write me back excoach, your advice last time was brilliant.

Thanks
Cam d

]]> Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by R.HURT. http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/my-ex-girlfriend-has-a-new-boyfriend/comment-page-6/#comment-20758 R.HURT. Tue, 01 Nov 2011 06:25:01 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=709#comment-20758 please help me. I just found out last week my ex of 7 years was seeing the guy that she left me for 5 years ago. She dated him 3 times within 6 months of 2006 and mid february of 2007. She left me on a summer 5 years ago for him and we ended up cheating on him the whole month they were going out. That was all of July. Then he left my ex and I find out a month later they were seeing each other again. Well I tell my ex this time why she played on both of us again and that I was done with her so she leaves the guy ONCE again to be with me. We were so happy until New Years I confessed I cheated on her first only once and she go so mad she kicked me out her dorm and ONCE again she looked for the guy and they start dating again from january of 2007, all the way to Valentines day. so they only lasted a month and a half but ONCE again during that time they were bf/gf, me and her were still seeing each other until she finally let him go cuz she ONCE again realized she wanted to be with me. Well after that the guy called me and told me he thought my ex was a monster n that he was really hurt she played with him 3 times and he told me that for people like her, love doesn’t exist and that I was the stupidest guy for keeping her after what she did with both of us. The only difference is, I knew about him and he thought my ex was DONE with me everytime but it wasn’t like that. well from 2007 all the way to know we arguedddddddd so much but for some reason we were always there next to each other. I got her a cellphone under my plan 3 years ago so I was paying for her phone and since she is poor, I also let her take my car to her school and bougt her everything. I’m not rich, but I really gave it all out for her and she was always there with me so I didn’t mind and saw her as more than a GF to me. Well I have treated her really bad before and still was with my jealousy that it would get really bad. I was too jealous of her cuz she is gorgeous and she’s popular and guys always want her so I was way too over protective but I was not healthy about it. I took her for granted all these years :’( Well after so many fights and arguments she was still by my side. I always bought her food, and let her borow my car for school and paid of her phone, always and pretty much she was 100% Dependent on me. I guess I felt I had a lot of control over her so I stopped being romantic. I just gave her all presents but was never sweet about it. Well I just found the guy we cheated on 3 times before is seeing her again. it seems like for 2 months they accidentally bumped into each other n they took it from there but she never told me she was getting to know him, AGAIN!!!! After 5 years, they accidentally meet, wow. Him again. She’s had handsome well dependent guys after her the whole time and she always rejected them for me and here is this JOKE again trying to win her heart. I texted the guy last weekend and got really furious and even threaten him to kick his ass and I even confronted my EX about it and all she said was that she really LIKES him and wants 2b with him. Wowowow. He really took her back after what SHE did to him?!?!? Well surprisingly they both put a restraining order on me 9 days ago and my ex told me to get away from her and leave her alone and that I could cancel her line n that it was best to let her go forever now. I was really shocked she put a restraining order on me as well as her new BF. So just 5 days ago(3 days after she left me) she called me from the cellphone I was paying for and she said she wants me to change and date another girl and that she wants to be happy with that SAME guy again and that this time she wasn’t going to HURT him and that he forced her to go to the police station. Well I tell her I LOVE her and said sorry for taking you for granted. I told her I was gonna change and be who I was before with her but my ex said no more and that she only wanted to see me as a friend and no more in the future. She told me to BLOCK her line??? Instead of cancel?? I don’t know why but she said that she wanted to know him this time and that in order for that to happen was if I wasn’t in the PICTURE anymore for now. she did tell me that she will never see me as more than a friend in her life no matter how much I want her back or prove the change. She just told me to date for now and to get better with my temper and jealousy. I had bought a pair of tickets to a concert schedule for DECEMBER 11_ 2011 and I told her if I should throw the tickets away n she said I DON’t know, that maybe she could go but she wasn’t sure as of now n to give her time and that it was a possibility for us to go in more than a month to the concert that we both badly wanted to go to. But she didn’t promise me anything cuz she said her BF wants to trust her now and that he really wanst someting serious with her. I’m 26. She’s 25 and her bf is 23. She told me she only wanst friends in me bit that for now it’s best to HEAL by not talking and that she was gonna look for me and wanted to see a changed man in me. Why???? How can that guy ever be happy with her after what she did to him? Is he just a rebound again? I was just surprised she said to BLOK her line for now but not CANCEL it..why? In case it doesn’t work out with her new bf? So after the call, I blocked her cellphone from being used so I did not cancel the line yet. it’s killing me inside that she’s with him now n there’s nothing I can do about this time since she needs SPACE so that he can TRUST her now. I’m just too hopeful she will look for me for the day of the concert so it’s hurting me. I’m still surprised her and that guy are together again. I don’t really know why the guy took her serious. Well it’s been 5 days without contacting her. I’m being a man of my word now. So if by DECEMBER 11 she doesn’t contact me, I’m cancelling her line n I’m gonna move on with my life. I would love for her to contact me and to drive her BF crazy again if I pretend to be her friend. Will I hurt myself? Will he get PARANOID? I don’t really know what I want anymore. I’m just hurt and still SHOCKED. What do I do? It’s been 5 days and yes I’ve cried so much cuz now I know what I had n I regret taking her for granted :’( should I date other girls? Go to ounseling so she sees the change? She’s prob not gonna look for me anymore. During this time I’m not talking to her she’s gonna fall in love with that guy and she will already be done with me. I’m really scared :’( what do you guys think? Let her go forever? She was my best friend, my 1st, my soulmate so yeah, it hurts to be lonely right now and to think that he is being intimate with her instead of me. Please tell me ur thoughts. If she doesn’t call by the day of concert should I give up for when she really contacts me? please help me. I just found out last week my ex of 7 years was seeing the guy that she left me for 5 years ago. She dated him 3 times within 6 months of 2006 and mid february of 2007. She left me on a summer 5 years ago for him and we ended up cheating on him the whole month they were going out. That was all of July. Then he left my ex and I find out a month later they were seeing each other again. Well I tell my ex this time why she played on both of us again and that I was done with her so she leaves the guy ONCE again to be with me. We were so happy until New Years I confessed I cheated on her first only once and she go so mad she kicked me out her dorm and ONCE again she looked for the guy and they start dating again from january of 2007, all the way to Valentines day.

so they only lasted a month and a half but ONCE again during that time they were bf/gf, me and her were still seeing each other until she finally let him go cuz she ONCE again realized she wanted to be with me. Well after that the guy called me and told me he thought my ex was a monster n that he was really hurt she played with him 3 times and he told me that for people like her, love doesn’t exist and that I was the stupidest guy for keeping her after what she did with both of us. The only difference is, I knew about him and he thought my ex was DONE with me everytime but it wasn’t like that.

well from 2007 all the way to know we arguedddddddd so much but for some reason we were always there next to each other. I got her a cellphone under my plan 3 years ago so I was paying for her phone and since she is poor, I also let her take my car to her school and bougt her everything. I’m not rich, but I really gave it all out for her and she was always there with me so I didn’t mind and saw her as more than a GF to me. Well I have treated her really bad before and still was with my jealousy that it would get really bad. I was too jealous of her cuz she is gorgeous and she’s popular and guys always want her so I was way too over protective but I was not healthy about it. I took her for granted all these years :’(

Well after so many fights and arguments she was still by my side. I always bought her food, and let her borow my car for school and paid of her phone, always and pretty much she was 100% Dependent on me. I guess I felt I had a lot of control over her so I stopped being romantic. I just gave her all presents but was never sweet about it. Well I just found the guy we cheated on 3 times before is seeing her again.

it seems like for 2 months they accidentally bumped into each other n they took it from there but she never told me she was getting to know him, AGAIN!!!! After 5 years, they accidentally meet, wow. Him again. She’s had handsome well dependent guys after her the whole time and she always rejected them for me and here is this JOKE again trying to win her heart. I texted the guy last weekend and got really furious and even threaten him to kick his ass and I even confronted my EX about it and all she said was that she really LIKES him and wants 2b with him. Wowowow. He really took her back after what SHE did to him?!?!? Well surprisingly they both put a restraining order on me 9 days ago and my ex told me to get away from her and leave her alone and that I could cancel her line n that it was best to let her go forever now.

I was really shocked she put a restraining order on me as well as her new BF. So just 5 days ago(3 days after she left me) she called me from the cellphone I was paying for and she said she wants me to change and date another girl and that she wants to be happy with that SAME guy again and that this time she wasn’t going to HURT him and that he forced her to go to the police station. Well I tell her I LOVE her and said sorry for taking you for granted. I told her I was gonna change and be who I was before with her but my ex said no more and that she only wanted to see me as a friend and no more in the future. She told me to BLOCK her line??? Instead of cancel?? I don’t know why but she said that she wanted to know him this time and that in order for that to happen was if I wasn’t in the PICTURE anymore for now.

she did tell me that she will never see me as more than a friend in her life no matter how much I want her back or prove the change. She just told me to date for now and to get better with my temper and jealousy. I had bought a pair of tickets to a concert schedule for DECEMBER 11_ 2011 and I told her if I should throw the tickets away n she said I DON’t know, that maybe she could go but she wasn’t sure as of now n to give her time and that it was a possibility for us to go in more than a month to the concert that we both badly wanted to go to. But she didn’t promise me anything cuz she said her BF wants to trust her now and that he really wanst someting serious with her. I’m 26. She’s 25 and her bf is 23. She told me she only wanst friends in me bit that for now it’s best to HEAL by not talking and that she was gonna look for me and wanted to see a changed man in me. Why???? How can that guy ever be happy with her after what she did to him? Is he just a rebound again? I was just surprised she said to BLOK her line for now but not CANCEL it..why? In case it doesn’t work out with her new bf? So after the call, I blocked her cellphone from being used so I did not cancel the line yet.

it’s killing me inside that she’s with him now n there’s nothing I can do about this time since she needs SPACE so that he can TRUST her now. I’m just too hopeful she will look for me for the day of the concert so it’s hurting me. I’m still surprised her and that guy are together again. I don’t really know why the guy took her serious. Well it’s been 5 days without contacting her. I’m being a man of my word now. So if by DECEMBER 11 she doesn’t contact me, I’m cancelling her line n I’m gonna move on with my life. I would love for her to contact me and to drive her BF crazy again if I pretend to be her friend. Will I hurt myself? Will he get PARANOID? I don’t really know what I want anymore. I’m just hurt and still SHOCKED. What do I do? It’s been 5 days and yes I’ve cried so much cuz now I know what I had n I regret taking her for granted :’(

should I date other girls? Go to ounseling so she sees the change? She’s prob not gonna look for me anymore. During this time I’m not talking to her she’s gonna fall in love with that guy and she will already be done with me. I’m really scared :’( what do you guys think? Let her go forever? She was my best friend, my 1st, my soulmate so yeah, it hurts to be lonely right now and to think that he is being intimate with her instead of me. Please tell me ur thoughts. If she doesn’t call by the day of concert should I give up for when she really contacts me?

]]> Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by Doubtful http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/my-ex-girlfriend-has-a-new-boyfriend/comment-page-6/#comment-19510 Doubtful Thu, 13 Oct 2011 18:57:55 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=709#comment-19510 Hi Coach. Sorry about the length of this letter, but I've seen you mention many times that you didn't have enough information to make an accurate assessment. I'm not sure if you're still giving out advice but if you are, I could certainly use some! I was with my girlfriend for about 2 years. During that time we had an extremely hot/cold relationship. Very passionate in some ways, yet a lot of arguing at times. To be honest she kind of had anger problems, so she would just wake up in a bad mood at times. This was quite frequent, to the point where her co-workers were calling her names like grumpy smurf and things like that. She truly had anger issues. Nevertheless, I still loved her and we tried to make it work. Eventually due to us not getting along, she started seeing someone else. I of course broke up with her. This was about 2 years ago. The break up honestly was both of our fault. She had anger issues, but my reaction to those issues was just as poor. I would blow up on her sometimes for being in a bad mood. When I say "blow up" I mean, I would say things like, "Damn, there you go again! What the hell is wrong with you." Thiings like that. Honestly, the only reason she cheated on my first is because she was able to find someone sooner than I could. lol. Anyway, a month or so after our break up, I tried talking with her about getting back together. She was sort if interested but was already seeing this other guy, was enjoying that situation and was worried about a repeat of our past drama, or which there was much. This was just 1 conversation, after which I never spoke to her again. 1-2 months after our break up I started receiving calls that I considered to be unnecessary. We had a loan in both of our names, so she would call me and ask if I had made a payment. I always made the payments, so to call each month I felt was unnecessary. Also, I told her to consider me dead and that I did not want to speak to her, and to simply e-mail or text me if she needed to discuss business. For the fisr 4 months or so she insisited on calling anyway. I would always let the call go to voice mail, and then address whatever probelem she mentioned. After about 5 months she started only emailing or texting, no voice calls. About every months and a half she would e-mail or text concerning something that was rather unnecessary, or something she couldn've just handled herself. However, because she would call about things that are technically business, I would be unsure as to the true motive. This has gone on almost the entire time we've been broken up, even during this period of her dating someone else. About 4 months ago, I started receiving messages that were unmistakeably non-business. She sent me a text informing me that Osama Bin Laden had been captured. About a month and a half later, she calls me at 11:30pm to discuss the loan. Once we discussed the issue, I could tell she didn't want to get off the phone. I said my goodbyes and hung up. a week later she e-mailed me about 'business', but was something she could've clearly handled herself. That e-mail was about a month ago now. At that point I told her to call me. She waited till the next day to call and I just straight up asked her whey she has persisted in calling me all the time about matters that were rather unnecessary. She at first stated the I was reading more into her calls and thatit was just about business. I refused to accept that answer, so I questioned her again. She then stated, "I don't know why two people who were as close as we were can't still speak to one another!" I asked her what she wanted from me. she said, "Look, I'm not trying to get back in a relationship with you. It was too much drama. I just can't understand why we can't talk." She went into how she has found Jesus and all of that, and how she has been working on making her life better, and wasn't the little "sex pot" I remember. I then told her that I could never see her as just a friend and if she wasn't interested in more, she should leave me alone. She said, "It's like that? Ok, fine, I'l leave you alone." I then told her that I did still miss her. She stated, " think about us too, but then I think about the bad times and it bring me right back to reality. She then told me how she was single, yet does have a 'friend', and that she's enjoying single life, just her and her son. I didn't really respond to that. I then said, "Look, what are you doing on the 8th? She said she wasn't sure. I then told her that she was having coffee with me on the 8th. (It was about 2 weeks before the 8th when this conversation took place) She agreed and we hung up the phone. I told her to call me in a few days, but because she has a tendency to act irritated by phone calls, (She's just not a phone person) that I didn't not want to go thru that, since I remember how much that used to irritate me. She said "Ok." About 3 days later she called me like clockwork, but when I answered her voice and attitude was rather dry. Granted it was about 9:30pm. I asked her what the problem was. She stated, "Well, I'm kinda tired but I figured I'd better call so you don't complain that I flaked on you." I'm sorry, but thatpissed me off! I told her that if she doesn't want to call, then just don't, but don't make me feel bad about you calling! That caused an argument and she hung the phone up. I tried to text her 3-4 times to get her to pick back up but she didn't. This irritated me greatly, since it felt as if the shoe was back on her foot, and I was back to begging her to call me. Someone that has been bugging to talk to me for 2 years! Anyway, I waited a week and e-mailed her and told her I was sorry for how things went that night. She acted really stubborn, with one word answers, such as, "don't worry, it's forgiven" I then said, "That doesn't sound too much like forgiveness to me" She said, "Well, you can't expect us to become BFF's in one day." I made a joke about that, and didn't send anymore contact. The next day I e-maild and said, "Hey, keep me penciled in for the 8th" She said, "OK" and we didn't have anymore contact. this was about the 2nd. On the 8th we met up at a coffee shop. She looked the same (good) and I was dressed my best. We both shook hands and she had that sort of nervous, awkward smile. (That was expected) We ordered our coffee's and just sat there looking at each other. Actually, she kept obviously staring at me the whole time. Anyway, I started the conversation by saying..."Look, like you I have thought about us. I'll think about the good times, then I'll think of the bad and it brings me back into reality. However, when I think about reality, I realize that our life wasn't reality. We got into partying too much, drinking too much, too much arguing, etc. That wasn't me and I don't think that was you." She agreed. I then said, "There's no way I can take away the bad. The only thing I can do is thin it out with good. I would like to thin out the bad with good, by replacing someone of those bad memories with good ones, one date, one outing, one meeting at a time. How do you feel about that?" She smiled and stated, "Well, I'm here, aren't I?" I then said, "I would like us to take the time to get to know each other. Not to rush into anything but re-learn each other, so that when ever we do reflect on a future together, it can be made with positive input, instead of just all the drama we created." She stated, "I would like that." Obviously there was more conversation but the gist was that I told her I wanted to slowly try again, and she agreed. She kept staring at me, which made me wonder if she found me less attractive than she had in the past. I finally asked what she kept staring and she said, "This is just the man that made me like him." refering to our enjoyable conversation and interaction. We then agreed to spend time together at the beach within the next 3 weeks or so. (Keep in mind I no longer live in her same city.) I then told her that I was going to let her get on with her afternoon and that I was about to leave. She stated, "You're trying to get rid of me, I see." I didn't say yes or no to that. I then walked her to her car, where she said, "Instead of a hand shake, can I get a hug?" I hugged her, kissed her cheek and started walking away. She then said, "So, is it going to be another yeal and a half before I see you again?" I said, "I don't think so" She said, "You don't think so, huh?" Smiling as she said it. Honestly, I didn't say anything more about that. Mostly because I thought it was a strange questions, since we had already agreed to spend time together in the coming weeks. Anyway, I drove away. Here's my delimma, about 4 days later I text her and told her it was nice spending to see her. She said it was nice seeing me too and that it was nice having a conversation without arguing. I agreed and told her to look at her schedule and pick 1 of the 4 upcoming saturdays on which she isn't busy, and that would be the day we'd go on our next date. She stated, "Ok, let me get back to you on that." That was about a day ago. Since then, no call, text or e-mail. Also, I was a little disappointed at the fact that 4 days after our coffee shop date, she didn't call, text or e-mail and I had to make the first move! I don't want to get back into a position where I'm the one doing all the calling and texting. Also, I'd like to know why, if she's considering possibly getting abck with me, why she doesn't feel the desire to call me, after 4 days from our last date? Also, why, if she's into me, didn't she rush to figure out which saturday she's have free so we could hang out? This hot and cold is killing me! I don't want to give up any power and make myself look as if I'm a love sick puppy, since we all know that will just cause her to lose respect for me. On the other hand, I want to let her know that her lack of calling and communication is offensive to me and makes me feel as if she's disinterested. Lastly, I'm not sure if I should contact her anymore concerning our upcoming date, since she already had said she'd get back to me. Seems to me any further mention on the date will make me look needy and desperate! Can you please help me?!? Hi Coach. Sorry about the length of this letter, but I’ve seen you mention many times that you didn’t have enough information to make an accurate assessment. I’m not sure if you’re still giving out advice but if you are, I could certainly use some! I was with my girlfriend for about 2 years. During that time we had an extremely hot/cold relationship. Very passionate in some ways, yet a lot of arguing at times. To be honest she kind of had anger problems, so she would just wake up in a bad mood at times. This was quite frequent, to the point where her co-workers were calling her names like grumpy smurf and things like that. She truly had anger issues. Nevertheless, I still loved her and we tried to make it work. Eventually due to us not getting along, she started seeing someone else. I of course broke up with her. This was about 2 years ago. The break up honestly was both of our fault. She had anger issues, but my reaction to those issues was just as poor. I would blow up on her sometimes for being in a bad mood. When I say “blow up” I mean, I would say things like, “Damn, there you go again! What the hell is wrong with you.” Thiings like that. Honestly, the only reason she cheated on my first is because she was able to find someone sooner than I could. lol. Anyway, a month or so after our break up, I tried talking with her about getting back together. She was sort if interested but was already seeing this other guy, was enjoying that situation and was worried about a repeat of our past drama, or which there was much. This was just 1 conversation, after which I never spoke to her again. 1-2 months after our break up I started receiving calls that I considered to be unnecessary. We had a loan in both of our names, so she would call me and ask if I had made a payment. I always made the payments, so to call each month I felt was unnecessary. Also, I told her to consider me dead and that I did not want to speak to her, and to simply e-mail or text me if she needed to discuss business. For the fisr 4 months or so she insisited on calling anyway. I would always let the call go to voice mail, and then address whatever probelem she mentioned. After about 5 months she started only emailing or texting, no voice calls. About every months and a half she would e-mail or text concerning something that was rather unnecessary, or something she couldn’ve just handled herself. However, because she would call about things that are technically business, I would be unsure as to the true motive. This has gone on almost the entire time we’ve been broken up, even during this period of her dating someone else. About 4 months ago, I started receiving messages that were unmistakeably non-business. She sent me a text informing me that Osama Bin Laden had been captured. About a month and a half later, she calls me at 11:30pm to discuss the loan. Once we discussed the issue, I could tell she didn’t want to get off the phone. I said my goodbyes and hung up. a week later she e-mailed me about ‘business’, but was something she could’ve clearly handled herself. That e-mail was about a month ago now. At that point I told her to call me. She waited till the next day to call and I just straight up asked her whey she has persisted in calling me all the time about matters that were rather unnecessary. She at first stated the I was reading more into her calls and thatit was just about business. I refused to accept that answer, so I questioned her again. She then stated, “I don’t know why two people who were as close as we were can’t still speak to one another!” I asked her what she wanted from me. she said, “Look, I’m not trying to get back in a relationship with you. It was too much drama. I just can’t understand why we can’t talk.” She went into how she has found Jesus and all of that, and how she has been working on making her life better, and wasn’t the little “sex pot” I remember. I then told her that I could never see her as just a friend and if she wasn’t interested in more, she should leave me alone. She said, “It’s like that? Ok, fine, I’l leave you alone.” I then told her that I did still miss her. She stated, ” think about us too, but then I think about the bad times and it bring me right back to reality. She then told me how she was single, yet does have a ‘friend’, and that she’s enjoying single life, just her and her son. I didn’t really respond to that. I then said, “Look, what are you doing on the 8th? She said she wasn’t sure. I then told her that she was having coffee with me on the 8th. (It was about 2 weeks before the 8th when this conversation took place) She agreed and we hung up the phone. I told her to call me in a few days, but because she has a tendency to act irritated by phone calls, (She’s just not a phone person) that I didn’t not want to go thru that, since I remember how much that used to irritate me. She said “Ok.” About 3 days later she called me like clockwork, but when I answered her voice and attitude was rather dry. Granted it was about 9:30pm. I asked her what the problem was. She stated, “Well, I’m kinda tired but I figured I’d better call so you don’t complain that I flaked on you.” I’m sorry, but thatpissed me off! I told her that if she doesn’t want to call, then just don’t, but don’t make me feel bad about you calling! That caused an argument and she hung the phone up. I tried to text her 3-4 times to get her to pick back up but she didn’t. This irritated me greatly, since it felt as if the shoe was back on her foot, and I was back to begging her to call me. Someone that has been bugging to talk to me for 2 years! Anyway, I waited a week and e-mailed her and told her I was sorry for how things went that night. She acted really stubborn, with one word answers, such as, “don’t worry, it’s forgiven” I then said, “That doesn’t sound too much like forgiveness to me” She said, “Well, you can’t expect us to become BFF’s in one day.” I made a joke about that, and didn’t send anymore contact. The next day I e-maild and said, “Hey, keep me penciled in for the 8th” She said, “OK” and we didn’t have anymore contact. this was about the 2nd. On the 8th we met up at a coffee shop. She looked the same (good) and I was dressed my best. We both shook hands and she had that sort of nervous, awkward smile. (That was expected) We ordered our coffee’s and just sat there looking at each other. Actually, she kept obviously staring at me the whole time. Anyway, I started the conversation by saying…”Look, like you I have thought about us. I’ll think about the good times, then I’ll think of the bad and it brings me back into reality. However, when I think about reality, I realize that our life wasn’t reality. We got into partying too much, drinking too much, too much arguing, etc. That wasn’t me and I don’t think that was you.” She agreed. I then said, “There’s no way I can take away the bad. The only thing I can do is thin it out with good. I would like to thin out the bad with good, by replacing someone of those bad memories with good ones, one date, one outing, one meeting at a time. How do you feel about that?” She smiled and stated, “Well, I’m here, aren’t I?” I then said, “I would like us to take the time to get to know each other. Not to rush into anything but re-learn each other, so that when ever we do reflect on a future together, it can be made with positive input, instead of just all the drama we created.” She stated, “I would like that.” Obviously there was more conversation but the gist was that I told her I wanted to slowly try again, and she agreed. She kept staring at me, which made me wonder if she found me less attractive than she had in the past. I finally asked what she kept staring and she said, “This is just the man that made me like him.” refering to our enjoyable conversation and interaction. We then agreed to spend time together at the beach within the next 3 weeks or so. (Keep in mind I no longer live in her same city.) I then told her that I was going to let her get on with her afternoon and that I was about to leave. She stated, “You’re trying to get rid of me, I see.” I didn’t say yes or no to that. I then walked her to her car, where she said, “Instead of a hand shake, can I get a hug?” I hugged her, kissed her cheek and started walking away. She then said, “So, is it going to be another yeal and a half before I see you again?” I said, “I don’t think so” She said, “You don’t think so, huh?” Smiling as she said it. Honestly, I didn’t say anything more about that. Mostly because I thought it was a strange questions, since we had already agreed to spend time together in the coming weeks. Anyway, I drove away.

Here’s my delimma, about 4 days later I text her and told her it was nice spending to see her. She said it was nice seeing me too and that it was nice having a conversation without arguing. I agreed and told her to look at her schedule and pick 1 of the 4 upcoming saturdays on which she isn’t busy, and that would be the day we’d go on our next date. She stated, “Ok, let me get back to you on that.” That was about a day ago. Since then, no call, text or e-mail. Also, I was a little disappointed at the fact that 4 days after our coffee shop date, she didn’t call, text or e-mail and I had to make the first move! I don’t want to get back into a position where I’m the one doing all the calling and texting. Also, I’d like to know why, if she’s considering possibly getting abck with me, why she doesn’t feel the desire to call me, after 4 days from our last date? Also, why, if she’s into me, didn’t she rush to figure out which saturday she’s have free so we could hang out? This hot and cold is killing me! I don’t want to give up any power and make myself look as if I’m a love sick puppy, since we all know that will just cause her to lose respect for me. On the other hand, I want to let her know that her lack of calling and communication is offensive to me and makes me feel as if she’s disinterested. Lastly, I’m not sure if I should contact her anymore concerning our upcoming date, since she already had said she’d get back to me. Seems to me any further mention on the date will make me look needy and desperate! Can you please help me?!?

]]> Comment on How to Get Your Girlfriend Back – Effective Ways to Win Back Her Love by Dan http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/110/comment-page-1/#comment-17984 Dan Fri, 16 Sep 2011 21:56:46 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=110#comment-17984 Eee, before you send her a letter you should have a good hard think about what you put.. because any sign of neediness will instantly start to decrease your chances of getting her even as a friend. You should tell her that breaking up was right and that you thank her for the good times shared. That you realise what went wrong and how it could have been fixed, interestingly you have a lot going on right now and maybe someday she'll find out over a coffee or a quick bite to eat. You wish her the best and hope that you can both be friends in the future. Sounds like your not looking to get back with her right? That's the idea. If you take any 'blame' in your letter, make sure it's just a light apology but not too much of one. Make your letter brief, straight to the point, honest with a tint of curiosity in there. Thats about all you need..after that you should go back to your own life and live it. I'm not saying that you should give up if she doesn't recopricate because the chances are you won't see instant effects, but you should definitely go into No Contact for your own good and maintain your positive emotions for moving on and being a confident person who believes in their abilites. Eee, before you send her a letter you should have a good hard think about what you put.. because any sign of neediness will instantly start to decrease your chances of getting her even as a friend.

You should tell her that breaking up was right and that you thank her for the good times shared. That you realise what went wrong and how it could have been fixed, interestingly you have a lot going on right now and maybe someday she’ll find out over a coffee or a quick bite to eat. You wish her the best and hope that you can both be friends in the future.

Sounds like your not looking to get back with her right? That’s the idea. If you take any ‘blame’ in your letter, make sure it’s just a light apology but not too much of one. Make your letter brief, straight to the point, honest with a tint of curiosity in there. Thats about all you need..after that you should go back to your own life and live it. I’m not saying that you should give up if she doesn’t recopricate because the chances are you won’t see instant effects, but you should definitely go into No Contact for your own good and maintain your positive emotions for moving on and being a confident person who believes in their abilites.

]]> Comment on How to Get Your Girlfriend Back – Effective Ways to Win Back Her Love by eee http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/110/comment-page-1/#comment-17470 eee Thu, 08 Sep 2011 00:54:34 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=110#comment-17470 Hi. its been a few months and there has been no contact at all between my ex-girlfriend and I, as probably expected. I am still patient but I feel since she has not contacted me there is a window of time/opportunity were I may need to probe a little to instigate her coming back if at all. I still feel she may want to feel wanted as i did hurt her badly and I must show a tiny bit of interest in her but not come on strongly. my plan is still to send her a personal letter perhaps in 10 weeks or so but not a love letter. I plan to explain why I have not been in touch because she had met someone else and it seemed fair that i back off. I also plan to take the blame for our break up and remind her that even though it happened i was still very happy with her company and always at ease and felt at home with her and say I appreciated her company and way she treated me. i also plan to tell her that there can't always be good times and i accept this. i plan to finish the note with a simple joke about her gym workouts and then tell her it would be nice to hear from her sometime. thats my plan... something down to earth , simple but try to make her feel good about herself but I don't want to look desperate. I really think its the only course of action I can take. your advice here would be great thanks. I have left things alone for over 17wks at this stage. Hi. its been a few months and there has been no contact at all between my ex-girlfriend and I, as probably expected. I am still patient but I feel since she has not contacted me there is a window of time/opportunity were I may need to probe a little to instigate her coming back if at all. I still feel she may want to feel wanted as i did hurt her badly and I must show a tiny bit of interest in her but not come on strongly. my plan is still to send her a personal letter perhaps in 10 weeks or so but not a love letter. I plan to explain why I have not been in touch because she had met someone else and it seemed fair that i back off. I also plan to take the blame for our break up and remind her that even though it happened i was still very happy with her company and always at ease and felt at home with her and say I appreciated her company and way she treated me. i also plan to tell her that there can’t always be good times and i accept this. i plan to finish the note with a simple joke about her gym workouts and then tell her it would be nice to hear from her sometime. thats my plan… something down to earth , simple but try to make her feel good about herself but I don’t want to look desperate. I really think its the only course of action I can take. your advice here would be great thanks. I have left things alone for over 17wks at this stage.

]]> Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by Alex http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/my-ex-girlfriend-has-a-new-boyfriend/comment-page-6/#comment-16617 Alex Thu, 25 Aug 2011 01:34:07 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=709#comment-16617 Hey. So its been two days after our breakup, we were together for 7 months and i am still in love with her. And i know she is still in love with me after we spent time discussing the situation and she admitted it. I didnt pry her or yell at her for reasons why she ended it. All i did was listen and talk when a question was directed at me. It hurt though not to being able to tell her really how i felt about it. She is with a new guy who she likes but she is still in love with me. She said she doesnt want to lose me from her life,that i cant abandoned her. I wont, as i told her. But then i said "but for now i need time. The girl broke my heart but i know that my issues were what pushed her away.mainly just my anger issues. I dont know if i made a mistake but i told her "i still want to marry you'' i thought she would respond but then she said " i want to marry you to" what does that mean? Shes with this bloke now but i think its not going to turn into anything big but im leaving in two days to army rangers boot, and im thinking if this will make her miss me. She doesnt know im going yet but i was planning on writting her a letter a week after i finish training. That leaves Time that i think will make her miss me before i send it. So do i still have a shot with her? I love her so much and cant livr without her. To me it seems like i have a shot to fix my mistakes that lead to her breaking up with me. Do i or is it a lost cause? Shes the world to me still and i dont want to lose her. I havent contacted her since yesterday when she wanted to talk. Hey.
So its been two days after our breakup, we were together for 7 months and i am still in love with her. And i know she is still in love with me after we spent time discussing the situation and she admitted it. I didnt pry her or yell at her for reasons why she ended it. All i did was listen and talk when a question was directed at me. It hurt though not to being able to tell her really how i felt about it. She is with a new guy who she likes but she is still in love with me. She said she doesnt want to lose me from her life,that i cant abandoned her. I wont, as i told her. But then i said “but for now i need time. The girl broke my heart but i know that my issues were what pushed her away.mainly just my anger issues. I dont know if i made a mistake but i told her “i still want to marry you” i thought she would respond but then she said ” i want to marry you to” what does that mean? Shes with this bloke now but i think its not going to turn into anything big but im leaving in two days to army rangers boot, and im thinking if this will make her miss me. She doesnt know im going yet but i was planning on writting her a letter a week after i finish training. That leaves
Time that i think will make her miss me before i send it. So do i still have a shot with her? I love her so much and cant livr without her. To me it seems like i have a shot to fix my mistakes that lead to her breaking up with me. Do i or is it a lost cause? Shes the world to me still and i dont want to lose her. I havent contacted her since yesterday when she wanted to talk.

]]> Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by Rahul http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/my-ex-girlfriend-has-a-new-boyfriend/comment-page-6/#comment-16005 Rahul Sun, 14 Aug 2011 06:00:15 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=709#comment-16005 Hello, I just saw your article and it kinda calmed me down. I miss my ex-gf. We were together for 1 and a half years but everything came crashing down because I had to enlist into national service, coz she thought we were incompatible, and coz i screwed up a couple of times. After she first dumped me, I was heart-broken but I didnt give up trying to win her heart back and we did patch back together. However it did not last. Since the start of this year, another guy came into her life. He flirted with her a lot and they started talking a lot and as much as I hurt knowing all this, I didnt do anything coz I had no right in telling her to stop talking to him. Yeah pretty soon, they started meeting and got very close. This was a very difficult time for me as my dad had just been admitted to a mental hospital - My dad always had the worst form of sciziophrenia and she knew about it. So, as you can possibly imagine, it was a hugely emotional time. Also to make matters worse, I went to meet her one day, completely out of the blue, to congratulate her on doing well for her exams after she just told me. I came there only with the intention of making her smile with a hand-written letter and flowers but as I approached her house, i saw them - the new guy and her, making out. They werent together! Wow, I dont know how to describe how absolutely excruciating and upsetting the whole sight was. Before I knew it, I had tears rolling down my cheeks and i just stood there frozen to the gr0und. They saw me, she was completely appalled. I dont know if this was the right thing, but I had no control on what i did next. He came up to me and tried to act nice and I, with all my untested strength gave him the strongest right hook to his jaw. All she said was that she liked him and that she's so sorry. I looked at her once and i know she could see the pain in my eyes. I left. Seeing them kiss really messed me up. I cut no contact for some time but she kept calling me to apologise. However, as I had to deal with my dad's condition, I became completely messed up in the head. I did everything you warned not to do in your video. After a few weeks,I begged her to come back, tried hard as hell to tell her not to go on with that guy, even lied to get her sympathy. I called her several several times. I basically appeared as a psycho to her.. I mean now shes with that guy. They ve been together for 4 months and as much as you say that it is a rebound, I cannot help but see that it looks like they re in love and that they will never break up. Before the day she got together with him, she was surprsingly very open and told me that she still had feelings for me. albeit it not being the same way but she wanted to give him a chance and not hurt his feelings as he had already asked her and was waiting for an answer. I kept my cool, even though i was in despair and disarray inside, and told her I d always love her, no matter what decision she chooses and that I just want her to be happy. Well.... it seems that they re way in love now. Its very very sad. She was the most beautiful thing that happened to me but she changed. However, I truly fell for her and the only thing I can wish for now, is to win her heart back. It just really really sucks that shes gonna remember me as a 'psycho' or a 'liar' coz of how i reacted upon them getting together. Im sure you can reason with me in the sense that I reacted so unattractively coz I was not in my senses. Granted, what I did was unbecoming of me, but seeing them make out, seeing a photo album of them on fb and having to deal with my dad and all the various conversations she had with me telling me how her bf was better than me, kind of was too much for me to take; for anyone to take. I made the biggest mistake. I never gave up since she first dumped me till even after they got together. I should have dropped off the face of the earth a long time ago but I didnt. I was silly for not doing so, for continuing to try and hopelessly fail and push her further away. All i know is, from watching them make out that very very unfortunate day till now, I have suffered the worst of pain, yet I can still love her with all the broken pieces of my heart. She''ll never realize how much I had to go through, coz I genuinely love her. At least god knows right. The last time i communicated with her was through the form of a letter and her birthday present that I left outside her door. In it i wrote, ' Im sorry I lied and hurt you. I never meant to. I only want to see you happy but seeing you with him, tore me down. You ll never understand what I had to go through. I hope you like your birthday present, I only want you to be happy. As much as it hurts, I wish you all the best with your current bf. When i was with you, you made my life into the most beautiful dream, but now its like everyday I'm living is a nightmare. I love you and I ll miss you. I already do. I can only dream of the day you say i love you to me and mean it. goodbye.' I cut contact, and left for a family holiday the next day. When i came back , i got a call from her, I stupidly answered, thinking she would be nice and ask me how i have been, but she took the chance to insult me and put me further down, commenting on the photos I took with my cousin sisters that she mistook for other girls. She told me to never associate her as my ex and that I m the biggest mistake of her life and that she's lucky to have met me only so she could appreciate her new bf. Well yeah, as hurtful as she was, I had never insulted her before so i just kept quiet and cut the call. Its been around 3 and a half weeks now. She called me once 2 weeks ago but I didnt answer. I ve been better but I still get nightmares of them kissing sometimes. I dont know what to do now. How long should i keep the no contact rule for? I wonder if she even misses me, now that shes probably sleeping with bf since they started off so physical. Please help me. Thank you (Sorry for my very long comment) Hello,
I just saw your article and it kinda calmed me down. I miss my ex-gf. We were together for 1 and a half years but everything came crashing down because I had to enlist into national service, coz she thought we were incompatible, and coz i screwed up a couple of times. After she first dumped me, I was heart-broken but I didnt give up trying to win her heart back and we did patch back together. However it did not last. Since the start of this year, another guy came into her life. He flirted with her a lot and they started talking a lot and as much as I hurt knowing all this, I didnt do anything coz I had no right in telling her to stop talking to him. Yeah pretty soon, they started meeting and got very close. This was a very difficult time for me as my dad had just been admitted to a mental hospital – My dad always had the worst form of sciziophrenia and she knew about it. So, as you can possibly imagine, it was a hugely emotional time. Also to make matters worse, I went to meet her one day, completely out of the blue, to congratulate her on doing well for her exams after she just told me. I came there only with the intention of making her smile with a hand-written letter and flowers but as I approached her house, i saw them – the new guy and her, making out. They werent together! Wow, I dont know how to describe how absolutely excruciating and upsetting the whole sight was. Before I knew it, I had tears rolling down my cheeks and i just stood there frozen to the gr0und. They saw me, she was completely appalled. I dont know if this was the right thing, but I had no control on what i did next. He came up to me and tried to act nice and I, with all my untested strength gave him the strongest right hook to his jaw. All she said was that she liked him and that she’s so sorry. I looked at her once and i know she could see the pain in my eyes. I left. Seeing them kiss really messed me up. I cut no contact for some time but she kept calling me to apologise. However, as I had to deal with my dad’s condition, I became completely messed up in the head. I did everything you warned not to do in your video. After a few weeks,I begged her to come back, tried hard as hell to tell her not to go on with that guy, even lied to get her sympathy. I called her several several times. I basically appeared as a psycho to her.. I mean now shes with that guy. They ve been together for 4 months and as much as you say that it is a rebound, I cannot help but see that it looks like they re in love and that they will never break up. Before the day she got together with him, she was surprsingly very open and told me that she still had feelings for me. albeit it not being the same way but she wanted to give him a chance and not hurt his feelings as he had already asked her and was waiting for an answer. I kept my cool, even though i was in despair and disarray inside, and told her I d always love her, no matter what decision she chooses and that I just want her to be happy. Well…. it seems that they re way in love now. Its very very sad. She was the most beautiful thing that happened to me but she changed. However, I truly fell for her and the only thing I can wish for now, is to win her heart back. It just really really sucks that shes gonna remember me as a ‘psycho’ or a ‘liar’ coz of how i reacted upon them getting together. Im sure you can reason with me in the sense that I reacted so unattractively coz I was not in my senses. Granted, what I did was unbecoming of me, but seeing them make out, seeing a photo album of them on fb and having to deal with my dad and all the various conversations she had with me telling me how her bf was better than me, kind of was too much for me to take; for anyone to take. I made the biggest mistake. I never gave up since she first dumped me till even after they got together. I should have dropped off the face of the earth a long time ago but I didnt. I was silly for not doing so, for continuing to try and hopelessly fail and push her further away. All i know is, from watching them make out that very very unfortunate day till now, I have suffered the worst of pain, yet I can still love her with all the broken pieces of my heart. She”ll never realize how much I had to go through, coz I genuinely love her. At least god knows right. The last time i communicated with her was through the form of a letter and her birthday present that I left outside her door. In it i wrote, ‘ Im sorry I lied and hurt you. I never meant to. I only want to see you happy but seeing you with him, tore me down. You ll never understand what I had to go through. I hope you like your birthday present, I only want you to be happy. As much as it hurts, I wish you all the best with your current bf. When i was with you, you made my life into the most beautiful dream, but now its like everyday I’m living is a nightmare. I love you and I ll miss you. I already do. I can only dream of the day you say i love you to me and mean it. goodbye.’
I cut contact, and left for a family holiday the next day. When i came back , i got a call from her, I stupidly answered, thinking she would be nice and ask me how i have been, but she took the chance to insult me and put me further down, commenting on the photos I took with my cousin sisters that she mistook for other girls. She told me to never associate her as my ex and that I m the biggest mistake of her life and that she’s lucky to have met me only so she could appreciate her new bf. Well yeah, as hurtful as she was, I had never insulted her before so i just kept quiet and cut the call. Its been around 3 and a half weeks now. She called me once 2 weeks ago but I didnt answer. I ve been better but I still get nightmares of them kissing sometimes. I dont know what to do now. How long should i keep the no contact rule for? I wonder if she even misses me, now that shes probably sleeping with bf since they started off so physical. Please help me.
Thank you
(Sorry for my very long comment)

]]> Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by Joshua http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/my-ex-girlfriend-has-a-new-boyfriend/comment-page-6/#comment-15740 Joshua Wed, 10 Aug 2011 00:09:28 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=709#comment-15740 lol coach** lol coach**

]]> Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by Joshua http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/my-ex-girlfriend-has-a-new-boyfriend/comment-page-6/#comment-15739 Joshua Wed, 10 Aug 2011 00:08:36 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=709#comment-15739 Hey Couch, like most of the stories on here mine is very long but i will try to sum it up as best as i can. My ex and I dated for 2 and a half years and the first year was fantastic after that we argued too much and I had trouble controlling my anger problem i would constantly get on her case about everything but we still seemed to pull through. After a rocky couple of months we break up for good and she said she doesnt feel the same anymore. I know this is directly because of the arguing and jealousy. I ask her to be friends and she agreed but didnt want anything more. She was very short with me and said she wasnt ready to spend time together so i just sent her a facebook message saying im sorry for the way i acted and the breakup is for the best. I stopped contacting her completely and around a week later she texts me asking what i was up to and we had a nice little conversation and i became hopeful that we just need some time apart. I text her again today and we had another fun little convo but when i got home i found out tht she has been going to parties with some guy. Sadly the last text i sent her said i gotta go let me know if u wanna hang out some time leaving me completely there for her on the sidelines. I am completely in love with her and i know for a while she was completely in love with me im destroying my anger problem once and for all with counseling and relaxation therapy but i want her back and am willing to do anything to show her ive finally changed and im going to be the boyfriend she deserves i just need to know where to start thanks coach, josh Hey Couch,
like most of the stories on here mine is very long but i will try to sum it up as best as i can. My ex and I dated for 2 and a half years and the first year was fantastic after that we argued too much and I had trouble controlling my anger problem i would constantly get on her case about everything but we still seemed to pull through. After a rocky couple of months we break up for good and she said she doesnt feel the same anymore. I know this is directly because of the arguing and jealousy. I ask her to be friends and she agreed but didnt want anything more. She was very short with me and said she wasnt ready to spend time together so i just sent her a facebook message saying im sorry for the way i acted and the breakup is for the best. I stopped contacting her completely and around a week later she texts me asking what i was up to and we had a nice little conversation and i became hopeful that we just need some time apart. I text her again today and we had another fun little convo but when i got home i found out tht she has been going to parties with some guy. Sadly the last text i sent her said i gotta go let me know if u wanna hang out some time leaving me completely there for her on the sidelines. I am completely in love with her and i know for a while she was completely in love with me im destroying my anger problem once and for all with counseling and relaxation therapy but i want her back and am willing to do anything to show her ive finally changed and im going to be the boyfriend she deserves i just need to know where to start

thanks coach,
josh

]]> Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by Tal http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/my-ex-girlfriend-has-a-new-boyfriend/comment-page-6/#comment-15698 Tal Tue, 09 Aug 2011 06:06:08 +0000 http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/?p=709#comment-15698 Hi Coach, it's me again (from http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/my-ex-girlfriend-has-a-new-boyfriend/comment-page-8/#comments)! So after my last post, I gchatted up the ex a few times, she sounded nice, polite and distant. Once I was stupid enough to send her an email telling her how I was having trouble finding closure and how I wish for a second chance. She wrote back saying she thinks we're never going to work out and that she thinks "our time has most definitely past", but she suggests maybe we have a talk once she gets back in September, and that I'm welcome to talk to her about other stuff in the mean time. Around the same time I also heard from a mutual friend that she was saying how she's over me then. All those made me feel very foolish, so I made a point to not contact her again until the end of the summer at least. I deleted her number from my phone, made sure she doesn't show up in gchat or my fb news feed, etc. The good thing is that I've been able to keep that promise to myself (she hasn't contacted me at all either) and occupying myself with work, dance, and all kinds of activities. I've also hung out with some new girls a few times, but every time I get disappointed that I don't feel the same way toward them and start thinking back to C again. Around last week, I start checking up on her again on facebook and such, after attending a friend's wedding made me think about her again. Also, around the same time another mutual friend tells me that she inquired about the wedding. In the same conversation, she seemed to imply that she might be single as she tells him "if you find a nice guy, let me know", but didn't elaborate on it too much. I asked if she's mentioned me at all, my friend says no and that she says she's completely over me and doesn't think we'll work out. So here lies my confusion...do you think my ex is instead completely over me, as her tone seems to be a lot more concrete? And if she's actually single now, do I have a chance with her? I understand that "not going to work out" is different from having feelings for someone, how do I find out if the latter is true in this case? I feel like I have changed and grown since we broke up and can handle a lot of things a lot better than before. So if it's still possible, I would like to give us another try. Also, when school starts, I'll be living off campus, and we'll no longer be able to causally run into each other, so every meeting will have to be arranged. Please help me device a game plan? I was thinking just meeting up with her once she gets back and not even talk about the relationship and just have a good time, while gauging her interest level? At the mean time, should I keep my no contact until the end of the summer, or should I try to probe for her situation? Thank you so much Coach! Hi Coach, it’s me again (from http://howtoget-mygirlfriendback.com/get-girlfriend-back/my-ex-girlfriend-has-a-new-boyfriend/comment-page-8/#comments)!

So after my last post, I gchatted up the ex a few times, she sounded nice, polite and distant. Once I was stupid enough to send her an email telling her how I was having trouble finding closure and how I wish for a second chance. She wrote back saying she thinks we’re never going to work out and that she thinks “our time has most definitely past”, but she suggests maybe we have a talk once she gets back in September, and that I’m welcome to talk to her about other stuff in the mean time. Around the same time I also heard from a mutual friend that she was saying how she’s over me then.

All those made me feel very foolish, so I made a point to not contact her again until the end of the summer at least. I deleted her number from my phone, made sure she doesn’t show up in gchat or my fb news feed, etc. The good thing is that I’ve been able to keep that promise to myself (she hasn’t contacted me at all either) and occupying myself with work, dance, and all kinds of activities. I’ve also hung out with some new girls a few times, but every time I get disappointed that I don’t feel the same way toward them and start thinking back to C again.

Around last week, I start checking up on her again on facebook and such, after attending a friend’s wedding made me think about her again. Also, around the same time another mutual friend tells me that she inquired about the wedding. In the same conversation, she seemed to imply that she might be single as she tells him “if you find a nice guy, let me know”, but didn’t elaborate on it too much. I asked if she’s mentioned me at all, my friend says no and that she says she’s completely over me and doesn’t think we’ll work out.

So here lies my confusion…do you think my ex is instead completely over me, as her tone seems to be a lot more concrete? And if she’s actually single now, do I have a chance with her? I understand that “not going to work out” is different from having feelings for someone, how do I find out if the latter is true in this case? I feel like I have changed and grown since we broke up and can handle a lot of things a lot better than before. So if it’s still possible, I would like to give us another try.

Also, when school starts, I’ll be living off campus, and we’ll no longer be able to causally run into each other, so every meeting will have to be arranged.

Please help me device a game plan? I was thinking just meeting up with her once she gets back and not even talk about the relationship and just have a good time, while gauging her interest level?

At the mean time, should I keep my no contact until the end of the summer, or should I try to probe for her situation?

Thank you so much Coach!

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