Situations like yours.. it always seems as though you try, but you are always a little too late to mend the relationship. The truth is, we only realize our shortcomings when we feel threatened by the negative changes our actions might bring out of our partners. To be blunt though, you knew about your problems for some time but you did nothing about it until your position was threatened. By the time you try to fix your problems, she’s already half way to breaking up with you and when you try to be nice to her, she’ll feel as though your kindness stem from the wrong reasons.

Apparently she still has feelings for you and it will be strange if she didn’t after sharing 7yrs. of her life with you. I would like to ask you a question. If she does come back to you, do you think you can better control your anger permanently? Or do you feel as though you need some professional help with anger issues?

Temporarily we can all be someone else and that’s especially true when we want something in exchange for our deeds. I’m not assuming that you hit her or anything, so please don’t be offended. But verbal abuse can hurt just as much and leave just as big scars for life. Whether it’s your ex girlfriend that comes back to you or that you get a new girlfriend, you first need to answer the question, “Can I control my anger?”. Only then should you go after your ex girlfriend and only then should you pursue a new relationship.

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I would normally advice anyone in your situation to free yourself from the the situation she tied you into and give your love to someone who deserves it, but I doubt I’ll be able to convince you to do so.

When a person is unwilling to choose between two people he/she has feelings for, I say that person does not deserve to be loved. You said you wanted to know how you could get her back? I say you already have her back. You just don’t have her entirely, half of her is always with another man. Either she makes the decision or she’s out. If you don’t get yourself out of the mess she’s created, she’ll drag you into the mud until you drawn my friend.

Demand her to show you the respect you deserve and tell her to make a choice. If she chooses you, then you have a chance to repair your relationship with her. If she doesn’t, I’d say that’s even better for you since it gets you out of a real nasty situation. Best of luck Justin and I personally hope that you’ll meet someone new who deserves to be loved by you.

basically im going all out to get her back, even if i have to sacrifice more things. She means everything.

It looks like you broke up with her without much fuss, the way you explain your break up sounds to me as if you were nonchalant about it. Then a month later you find out that she has a new boyfriend and all of a sudden you want her back.

It might have been by chance that the timing of her dating someone new and you wanting her back coincided, but it won’t seem that way to your ex girlfriend. In your case, your girlfriend broke up with you. But even if the roles were reversed, that is even if you were the one to break up the relationship, chances are even then you wouldn’t have liked seeing her with someone new. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to criticize you. I just want you to figure out whether your feelings aren’t just raw feelings of jealousy and not that of a loving ex boyfriend.

If you are still with me, I’ll assume that you do want her back because you still love her and not because you don’t want her to be with someone else. It’s too bad that you were so direct about your approach to get her back. For whatever reason, she broke up with you. You tried to get her back without even knowing the reasons that might have contributed to the break up and that might have come off to her as if you were simply a jealous ex boyfriend. If you were going to contact her, you should have tried to become friends with her first and give her a chance to open up to you and about the things that had troubled her in the old relationship. But enough about what ifs, hindsight is 20/20 after all.

Let’s start things out by patching things up a little. Add her back to your Facebook friends list and leave her a short message apologizing to her for acting like a child. Tell her that you’ve learned to accept the break up and that she’ll always be a good friend to you. That’s it for now, say no more and do not call her. If she does call you, be friendly but don’t reveal to her that you still love her. Do this for now and contact me again either by this post or by email after she responds.

I want to know did mess up when I called her back.Im doing the NO CONTACT RULE right now..o yea i told i’ll talk to her later.

The amount of happiness that you have depends on the amount of freedom you have in your heart.Please continue posting stuffs like this.