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Comment on How to Get My Girlfriend Back When She Has a New Boyfriend by M.R

M.R — Mon, 16 Apr 2012 21:22:47 +0000

hey i was in a relationship with this girl for about 2 months and she ended because we didn’t see eachother enough we split up about 3 months ago. Anyways she started a new relationship about 3weeks after we split i did not contact her for about 2months then she ended up getting in contact through facebook ,text etc i have not been in contact with her for about 2weeks now and would just like to ask if u think if theres anychance of me getting my ex back ?

Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by will clark

will clark — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 23:48:02 +0000

I have been dating a girl for a few months and I have been insecure about her ex and her going over there I have accused her a couple of times when I could be wrong. Anyway she broke up with me christmas eve I beg her to come back and she wouldnt. She ended up having sex with a guy and I cought her because I knew and spied on her once. So I got mad called her every name in the book and now she probably hates me. Is there anyway chance we will work out again?

Comment on Win Back Your Ex Girlfriend – Write a Letter by Zack

Zack — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 16:55:02 +0000

Hey exbackcoach!!
I’d a girl , we went for about 2 years. On our 2nd anniversary, she started ignoring me and finally she broke up. I asked the reason, she said that she’s having a lot of problem in her house and her parents came to know because of me and she want some break. I asked her that will she be back for me later, she was not sure.
I convinced her a lot but she refused. I promised her that I’ll wait for her. She’s in hostel now in different school and I’m not having any contact with her. She said she loves me till her life but can’t go on with me. I am totally unknown about my fault, I asked her my fault but there’s non,she replied. Now after 5 month of our break up, she accepted another guy in her school. I was shocked, I don’t know why she did so. I really love her and can’t move on. I still wait for her but I don’t think there’s any hope for me. Even she loves me, but for now she’s with another guy.
What should I do for now ? She’ll be back from Hostel after her finals come to an end after 3 months. Everyday I see her pics on facebook, I start shivering, I feel so bad that she accepted another guy though she loves me. Why she did so ? Can I get back to her ? I seriously don’t know what to do ?

WHAT SHOULD I DO ??? Please reply soon Mr. exbackcoach

Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by george

george — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 07:28:36 +0000

yo i just wanna start off, i’m pretty sick. i have this horrible disease holding me back from the world. she was my first girlfriend. so i didnt really know how things worked. i have so many regrets in this relationship. i wish i could start it over with her so bad. i feel so embarassed and stupid, i mean i’m the guy in the relationship and i was too much of a pussy to be the man. i mean she had to constantly be the one making the moves. she told me once when we were cuddling on the couch when she wanted to kiss. she was like “george, do i always have to make the first move” in like a playing way. but i knew what she meant and i can’t believe from that point on i didn’t change. every now and then i check her FB, off a friends account but i stopped. but recently i wanted to try to talk to her again. so i waited til her birthday and wished her happy birthday. you don’t know how nervous i was to send the text saying “happy birthday” with her name and all. we talked a bit catching up on things. i was so happy to talk to her all day i was happy. we traded pictures to see how we looked because she had cut her hair and i had started working out a lot more. then near the end of the day i knew from the very freaking beginning that we wouldn’t talk after that day. that i used that as a freaking excuse to talk to her because of how much i missed her. she doesn’t know how much i feel about her. and i can’t tell her, it’s just too obsessive she would take it the wrong way. even though it’s probably so sick anyways. well i fell asleep woke up around 7pm she never replied to my text so i just ended with “text me some time you know” next few days i was kinda happy i was so motivated to workout even harder to get good grades. but then i found she had a boyfriend. i wanted to show her off to my friends and i told them something like “guys im gonna try to get back with my ex i miss her so much” and then we went on her FB and i was smiling and everything. my friends looking at it and then he takes away the phone, but it was too late i saw what he was trying to hide from me. it said she was in a relationship with some dude. you have no idea how fucking heated i was that day. couldnt sit down that whole period at school. after class some dude was walking too slow with a big backup i almost pushed him down the stairs i couldnt believe how aggressive first time ive ever done that to a stranger. sorry if i’m just babbling and starting from different points. i’ve told this story plenty of times but i just need this to vent so bad. i’m killing myself trying to hope that she will come back to me. she was so beautiful and her personality i couldn’t ever get tired of her. i swear i’m not just playing with words. i mean it, i think it’s because she made me become a different person than i was a happy person. now i don’t have that same person inside me i get so angry now, and it may not be the main reason i get so upset that i’m breaking things i mean some of it has to do with my mom pissing me off. but then while i’m mad and i’m breaking shit i think and wonder what my girlfriend would think of me at that scary moment. i never used to be so scary. it’s funny i was so innocent my freshman year, and now i’m an animal. we broke up almost a year ago. i wish i would have given her more of what i really wanted to give her. i mean this like.. i should have given her a bigger part of me the real me. but i was too scared to show her myself. i mean this as i wish i would have been the one to make the move the one to make the first kiss. the one to be like hey let’s hangout. but no i was a fucking idiot, that was just to shy. i swear if i had the chance again i wouldn’t mess it up. i know the problem to all this i dont have the balls to move on i dont know why. this ruined me. we go to different schools and i had moved freshman year, and half of sophomore year when i went to my new school for the first time, i didnt really bother making friends with anybody. i had my girlfriend she was all i needed we texted all day. and yeah this was probably a BIG problem and i cant believe this i feel like one of those husbands whos wife wants a divorce out of no where. i was too much into texting texting texting fucking texting and texting. ugh.. i think ruined the relationship i mean yeah i would talk to her in person over texting/phone. but damnit man fuck. why didnt i make the fucking effort to go to her house or be like hey lets hang out. i wouldnt be in such a shit hole in the first place. and when she broke up with me i dont even know why i said i would cry if she broke up with me that was the stupidest shit ive ever done. i told myself way before i met her that i would never be that guy that tried to beg the girlfriend not to leave him. i dont even know what to say. this is just one big ass regret paragraph. i just wish i woulda done it the way i truely wanted to. i dont know what to do. i was hoping that maybe my ex was finally ready to talk to me when my friend told me she wanted to know how i was doing. i dont know how long i will be stuck here. at point 0. what do i do?

Comment on Win Back Your Ex Girlfriend – Write a Letter by ren

ren — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 02:24:05 +0000

Hi ExBackCoach,

Have a different situation. Met a girl a month and a half back and we instantly fell for each other. I have my 11 year old relationship and she had a 2 year old one. After dating for a week, she asked me to choose and I without hesitation chosed her. She told me she chosed me too. After a month, the ex came to the city and just suddenly she went with him and left me. She said she felt bad for the ex.

I know I have this chance to win her back. But she’s coming back with the ex to her hometown> it’s christmas and I feel that I will not do this sitting down. What should I do?

Comment on Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back By Doing What She Is Doing by Merlin

Merlin — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:34:23 +0000

Okay, so you believe that you can get most exes to come to their senses… Let’s see if I can stump you with this one.

I met a wonderful woman [a bit younger than myself] online a little over a year ago. Unfortunately it is and has been a long-distance chat session due to proximity of jobs, etc. Over time, and in my opinion, the “sparks” appeared to be in place to move it to the next level and finally meet.

She makes many of the same standard excuses over and over again [I need money, I don't have a phone, etc...] But on the back-side of that she says she has affections and feelings [She was the 1st one to say 'LOVE']

I finally said that she was trying to manipulate and guilt me into simply ‘giving’ her physical objects, money and that I was NOT going to be a part of such activity. [One note here, I did help by sending her a little money one time with some minor expenses. [I know - rather stupid on my part.] So, I ended the relationship.

Anyway, I am in a quandary, I believe that I have true affections for her and would like to escalate, but am at a loss as to HOW to proceed given the history. Currently I am letting her cool off and stew in her own juices, so to speak.

Any ideas??

Comment on Win Back Your Ex Girlfriend – Write a Letter by Cameron D

Cameron D — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 16:45:28 +0000

Hi exbackcoach, it’s me again, I posted something about my relationship back in June. A lot has hapowned since then my friend, pretty much, my girlfriend who I was writing about previously came back to me, I took you’re advice and became ruthless. She said she was sorry tur way she ended it and she missed me. So from June through till septemeber things were going AMAZING, I was in love again, I had my baby back with me, I felt on top of the world. Then one day she came to my house crying her eyes out, I asked her what was wrong and she said it’s really bad, i thought the obvious ‘she’s pregnant’. Infact no, it was much worse. She was moving back to canada, where she was born and raised. She lived her in england for 7 years and recently just moved back. She mved back on October 7th, well over a month ago. Before she went she was fine, she told me she still love me and when I asked about what was going To happen between us she always said we’ll see how it goes. I felt her getting more distant towards me approaching towards her last few weeks here. Weather or not that was due to her hectic schedule packing and getting ready for the big move. Anyway, she text me before she got on the plane saying boarding now, I’ll let you know when I’ve landed love you xxx. Throughout the next few weeks I felt her getting even more distant with me, writing small little messages, never telling me she missed me or loved me like I was doing to her. Anyway, oneday I asked her what’s going on with us, it felt like she was waiting for me to pop the question. As soon as I asked that it changed, she said she couldn’t do this, we could still
Be friends but she couldn’t continue to be my gf. I was heartbroken, she has left me twice now. I continued to write to her telling her how much she ment to me and how much I didn’t want her to do this. I did this for about a week, until she replied saying it’s pointless Writting you back as I have nothing to say to you. That hurt me deeply. I didn’t reply to her again, I deleted the twitter app of my phone and didn’t check it once for 2 weeks. I went back on there, she was still following me, I had some different girl write to me during the time I didn’t check twitter, I publically replied to her (with my gf it was all done via private message), I wrote back to this girl and that was it for me twitter activity that day. Checked my ex gf’s page the following day and she had un-followed me for that. And that’s where I currently stand, we haven’t spoke to one another in 23 days now and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave it and never speak to her again because she really was my life. But at the same time I don’t like not being her bf. It makes me sad. In a perfect world she would still be with me trying to have a long distance relationship with me. I asked her all the time to try this, I said we’d skype everyday, I’d stay up late cos of the tome difference, I was willing to do anything for her. I said I’d come visit a couple times a year. She wouldn’t have non of it. I just feel so lonely now without her her because all I did was spend time with her, everyday I’d be round her house allday. I think I really cared for her and she knew that so she could do anything and I be here for her. I feel stupid aswell, before she left, I bought her a £200 pandora bracelet, I bought it as a goodbye present, to remember me by, and to hopefully keep her with me. I spend a weeks wages on that. She even said she’d send me dome clothes back when she got to Canada as a present for me, never seen them. I just don’t k ow what to do excoach? Help me please. I’d love her to take me back and want to try this with me because she didn’t not once, we never skyped. I obviously k ow that won’t happen, when I girls mind is made up that’s it. Also, she’s been writing weird messages On Twitter that I think are aimed at me, like ‘your the only road I know’ ‘we found love for a hopeless place’ ‘cant wait to get the fuck out of here #won’tyousave me’ and ‘friends are forever until they get I to relationships’. Im aware a few are lyrics but I think she relates to them because of me. I’m in a state at the moment and don’t k ow what to do. How do I contact her? I really miss her so bad. She has never called me once, nothing. Is she waiting for me to make the effort and contact her? What should I do, all I do is smoke weed and cry about her at the moment, I’m in a dark place. Please take the time to write me back excoach, your advice last time was brilliant.

Thanks
Cam d

Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by R.HURT.

R.HURT. — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 06:25:01 +0000

please help me. I just found out last week my ex of 7 years was seeing the guy that she left me for 5 years ago. She dated him 3 times within 6 months of 2006 and mid february of 2007. She left me on a summer 5 years ago for him and we ended up cheating on him the whole month they were going out. That was all of July. Then he left my ex and I find out a month later they were seeing each other again. Well I tell my ex this time why she played on both of us again and that I was done with her so she leaves the guy ONCE again to be with me. We were so happy until New Years I confessed I cheated on her first only once and she go so mad she kicked me out her dorm and ONCE again she looked for the guy and they start dating again from january of 2007, all the way to Valentines day.

so they only lasted a month and a half but ONCE again during that time they were bf/gf, me and her were still seeing each other until she finally let him go cuz she ONCE again realized she wanted to be with me. Well after that the guy called me and told me he thought my ex was a monster n that he was really hurt she played with him 3 times and he told me that for people like her, love doesn’t exist and that I was the stupidest guy for keeping her after what she did with both of us. The only difference is, I knew about him and he thought my ex was DONE with me everytime but it wasn’t like that.

well from 2007 all the way to know we arguedddddddd so much but for some reason we were always there next to each other. I got her a cellphone under my plan 3 years ago so I was paying for her phone and since she is poor, I also let her take my car to her school and bougt her everything. I’m not rich, but I really gave it all out for her and she was always there with me so I didn’t mind and saw her as more than a GF to me. Well I have treated her really bad before and still was with my jealousy that it would get really bad. I was too jealous of her cuz she is gorgeous and she’s popular and guys always want her so I was way too over protective but I was not healthy about it. I took her for granted all these years :’(

Well after so many fights and arguments she was still by my side. I always bought her food, and let her borow my car for school and paid of her phone, always and pretty much she was 100% Dependent on me. I guess I felt I had a lot of control over her so I stopped being romantic. I just gave her all presents but was never sweet about it. Well I just found the guy we cheated on 3 times before is seeing her again.

it seems like for 2 months they accidentally bumped into each other n they took it from there but she never told me she was getting to know him, AGAIN!!!! After 5 years, they accidentally meet, wow. Him again. She’s had handsome well dependent guys after her the whole time and she always rejected them for me and here is this JOKE again trying to win her heart. I texted the guy last weekend and got really furious and even threaten him to kick his ass and I even confronted my EX about it and all she said was that she really LIKES him and wants 2b with him. Wowowow. He really took her back after what SHE did to him?!?!? Well surprisingly they both put a restraining order on me 9 days ago and my ex told me to get away from her and leave her alone and that I could cancel her line n that it was best to let her go forever now.

I was really shocked she put a restraining order on me as well as her new BF. So just 5 days ago(3 days after she left me) she called me from the cellphone I was paying for and she said she wants me to change and date another girl and that she wants to be happy with that SAME guy again and that this time she wasn’t going to HURT him and that he forced her to go to the police station. Well I tell her I LOVE her and said sorry for taking you for granted. I told her I was gonna change and be who I was before with her but my ex said no more and that she only wanted to see me as a friend and no more in the future. She told me to BLOCK her line??? Instead of cancel?? I don’t know why but she said that she wanted to know him this time and that in order for that to happen was if I wasn’t in the PICTURE anymore for now.

she did tell me that she will never see me as more than a friend in her life no matter how much I want her back or prove the change. She just told me to date for now and to get better with my temper and jealousy. I had bought a pair of tickets to a concert schedule for DECEMBER 11_ 2011 and I told her if I should throw the tickets away n she said I DON’t know, that maybe she could go but she wasn’t sure as of now n to give her time and that it was a possibility for us to go in more than a month to the concert that we both badly wanted to go to. But she didn’t promise me anything cuz she said her BF wants to trust her now and that he really wanst someting serious with her. I’m 26. She’s 25 and her bf is 23. She told me she only wanst friends in me bit that for now it’s best to HEAL by not talking and that she was gonna look for me and wanted to see a changed man in me. Why???? How can that guy ever be happy with her after what she did to him? Is he just a rebound again? I was just surprised she said to BLOK her line for now but not CANCEL it..why? In case it doesn’t work out with her new bf? So after the call, I blocked her cellphone from being used so I did not cancel the line yet.

it’s killing me inside that she’s with him now n there’s nothing I can do about this time since she needs SPACE so that he can TRUST her now. I’m just too hopeful she will look for me for the day of the concert so it’s hurting me. I’m still surprised her and that guy are together again. I don’t really know why the guy took her serious. Well it’s been 5 days without contacting her. I’m being a man of my word now. So if by DECEMBER 11 she doesn’t contact me, I’m cancelling her line n I’m gonna move on with my life. I would love for her to contact me and to drive her BF crazy again if I pretend to be her friend. Will I hurt myself? Will he get PARANOID? I don’t really know what I want anymore. I’m just hurt and still SHOCKED. What do I do? It’s been 5 days and yes I’ve cried so much cuz now I know what I had n I regret taking her for granted :’(

should I date other girls? Go to ounseling so she sees the change? She’s prob not gonna look for me anymore. During this time I’m not talking to her she’s gonna fall in love with that guy and she will already be done with me. I’m really scared :’( what do you guys think? Let her go forever? She was my best friend, my 1st, my soulmate so yeah, it hurts to be lonely right now and to think that he is being intimate with her instead of me. Please tell me ur thoughts. If she doesn’t call by the day of concert should I give up for when she really contacts me?

Comment on My Ex Girlfriend Has a New Boyfriend – How Can I Get Her Back by Doubtful

Doubtful — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 18:57:55 +0000

Hi Coach. Sorry about the length of this letter, but I’ve seen you mention many times that you didn’t have enough information to make an accurate assessment. I’m not sure if you’re still giving out advice but if you are, I could certainly use some! I was with my girlfriend for about 2 years. During that time we had an extremely hot/cold relationship. Very passionate in some ways, yet a lot of arguing at times. To be honest she kind of had anger problems, so she would just wake up in a bad mood at times. This was quite frequent, to the point where her co-workers were calling her names like grumpy smurf and things like that. She truly had anger issues. Nevertheless, I still loved her and we tried to make it work. Eventually due to us not getting along, she started seeing someone else. I of course broke up with her. This was about 2 years ago. The break up honestly was both of our fault. She had anger issues, but my reaction to those issues was just as poor. I would blow up on her sometimes for being in a bad mood. When I say “blow up” I mean, I would say things like, “Damn, there you go again! What the hell is wrong with you.” Thiings like that. Honestly, the only reason she cheated on my first is because she was able to find someone sooner than I could. lol. Anyway, a month or so after our break up, I tried talking with her about getting back together. She was sort if interested but was already seeing this other guy, was enjoying that situation and was worried about a repeat of our past drama, or which there was much. This was just 1 conversation, after which I never spoke to her again. 1-2 months after our break up I started receiving calls that I considered to be unnecessary. We had a loan in both of our names, so she would call me and ask if I had made a payment. I always made the payments, so to call each month I felt was unnecessary. Also, I told her to consider me dead and that I did not want to speak to her, and to simply e-mail or text me if she needed to discuss business. For the fisr 4 months or so she insisited on calling anyway. I would always let the call go to voice mail, and then address whatever probelem she mentioned. After about 5 months she started only emailing or texting, no voice calls. About every months and a half she would e-mail or text concerning something that was rather unnecessary, or something she couldn’ve just handled herself. However, because she would call about things that are technically business, I would be unsure as to the true motive. This has gone on almost the entire time we’ve been broken up, even during this period of her dating someone else. About 4 months ago, I started receiving messages that were unmistakeably non-business. She sent me a text informing me that Osama Bin Laden had been captured. About a month and a half later, she calls me at 11:30pm to discuss the loan. Once we discussed the issue, I could tell she didn’t want to get off the phone. I said my goodbyes and hung up. a week later she e-mailed me about ‘business’, but was something she could’ve clearly handled herself. That e-mail was about a month ago now. At that point I told her to call me. She waited till the next day to call and I just straight up asked her whey she has persisted in calling me all the time about matters that were rather unnecessary. She at first stated the I was reading more into her calls and thatit was just about business. I refused to accept that answer, so I questioned her again. She then stated, “I don’t know why two people who were as close as we were can’t still speak to one another!” I asked her what she wanted from me. she said, “Look, I’m not trying to get back in a relationship with you. It was too much drama. I just can’t understand why we can’t talk.” She went into how she has found Jesus and all of that, and how she has been working on making her life better, and wasn’t the little “sex pot” I remember. I then told her that I could never see her as just a friend and if she wasn’t interested in more, she should leave me alone. She said, “It’s like that? Ok, fine, I’l leave you alone.” I then told her that I did still miss her. She stated, ” think about us too, but then I think about the bad times and it bring me right back to reality. She then told me how she was single, yet does have a ‘friend’, and that she’s enjoying single life, just her and her son. I didn’t really respond to that. I then said, “Look, what are you doing on the 8th? She said she wasn’t sure. I then told her that she was having coffee with me on the 8th. (It was about 2 weeks before the 8th when this conversation took place) She agreed and we hung up the phone. I told her to call me in a few days, but because she has a tendency to act irritated by phone calls, (She’s just not a phone person) that I didn’t not want to go thru that, since I remember how much that used to irritate me. She said “Ok.” About 3 days later she called me like clockwork, but when I answered her voice and attitude was rather dry. Granted it was about 9:30pm. I asked her what the problem was. She stated, “Well, I’m kinda tired but I figured I’d better call so you don’t complain that I flaked on you.” I’m sorry, but thatpissed me off! I told her that if she doesn’t want to call, then just don’t, but don’t make me feel bad about you calling! That caused an argument and she hung the phone up. I tried to text her 3-4 times to get her to pick back up but she didn’t. This irritated me greatly, since it felt as if the shoe was back on her foot, and I was back to begging her to call me. Someone that has been bugging to talk to me for 2 years! Anyway, I waited a week and e-mailed her and told her I was sorry for how things went that night. She acted really stubborn, with one word answers, such as, “don’t worry, it’s forgiven” I then said, “That doesn’t sound too much like forgiveness to me” She said, “Well, you can’t expect us to become BFF’s in one day.” I made a joke about that, and didn’t send anymore contact. The next day I e-maild and said, “Hey, keep me penciled in for the 8th” She said, “OK” and we didn’t have anymore contact. this was about the 2nd. On the 8th we met up at a coffee shop. She looked the same (good) and I was dressed my best. We both shook hands and she had that sort of nervous, awkward smile. (That was expected) We ordered our coffee’s and just sat there looking at each other. Actually, she kept obviously staring at me the whole time. Anyway, I started the conversation by saying…”Look, like you I have thought about us. I’ll think about the good times, then I’ll think of the bad and it brings me back into reality. However, when I think about reality, I realize that our life wasn’t reality. We got into partying too much, drinking too much, too much arguing, etc. That wasn’t me and I don’t think that was you.” She agreed. I then said, “There’s no way I can take away the bad. The only thing I can do is thin it out with good. I would like to thin out the bad with good, by replacing someone of those bad memories with good ones, one date, one outing, one meeting at a time. How do you feel about that?” She smiled and stated, “Well, I’m here, aren’t I?” I then said, “I would like us to take the time to get to know each other. Not to rush into anything but re-learn each other, so that when ever we do reflect on a future together, it can be made with positive input, instead of just all the drama we created.” She stated, “I would like that.” Obviously there was more conversation but the gist was that I told her I wanted to slowly try again, and she agreed. She kept staring at me, which made me wonder if she found me less attractive than she had in the past. I finally asked what she kept staring and she said, “This is just the man that made me like him.” refering to our enjoyable conversation and interaction. We then agreed to spend time together at the beach within the next 3 weeks or so. (Keep in mind I no longer live in her same city.) I then told her that I was going to let her get on with her afternoon and that I was about to leave. She stated, “You’re trying to get rid of me, I see.” I didn’t say yes or no to that. I then walked her to her car, where she said, “Instead of a hand shake, can I get a hug?” I hugged her, kissed her cheek and started walking away. She then said, “So, is it going to be another yeal and a half before I see you again?” I said, “I don’t think so” She said, “You don’t think so, huh?” Smiling as she said it. Honestly, I didn’t say anything more about that. Mostly because I thought it was a strange questions, since we had already agreed to spend time together in the coming weeks. Anyway, I drove away.

Here’s my delimma, about 4 days later I text her and told her it was nice spending to see her. She said it was nice seeing me too and that it was nice having a conversation without arguing. I agreed and told her to look at her schedule and pick 1 of the 4 upcoming saturdays on which she isn’t busy, and that would be the day we’d go on our next date. She stated, “Ok, let me get back to you on that.” That was about a day ago. Since then, no call, text or e-mail. Also, I was a little disappointed at the fact that 4 days after our coffee shop date, she didn’t call, text or e-mail and I had to make the first move! I don’t want to get back into a position where I’m the one doing all the calling and texting. Also, I’d like to know why, if she’s considering possibly getting abck with me, why she doesn’t feel the desire to call me, after 4 days from our last date? Also, why, if she’s into me, didn’t she rush to figure out which saturday she’s have free so we could hang out? This hot and cold is killing me! I don’t want to give up any power and make myself look as if I’m a love sick puppy, since we all know that will just cause her to lose respect for me. On the other hand, I want to let her know that her lack of calling and communication is offensive to me and makes me feel as if she’s disinterested. Lastly, I’m not sure if I should contact her anymore concerning our upcoming date, since she already had said she’d get back to me. Seems to me any further mention on the date will make me look needy and desperate! Can you please help me?!?

Comment on How to Get Your Girlfriend Back – Effective Ways to Win Back Her Love by Dan

Dan — Fri, 16 Sep 2011 21:56:46 +0000

Eee, before you send her a letter you should have a good hard think about what you put.. because any sign of neediness will instantly start to decrease your chances of getting her even as a friend.

You should tell her that breaking up was right and that you thank her for the good times shared. That you realise what went wrong and how it could have been fixed, interestingly you have a lot going on right now and maybe someday she’ll find out over a coffee or a quick bite to eat. You wish her the best and hope that you can both be friends in the future.

Sounds like your not looking to get back with her right? That’s the idea. If you take any ‘blame’ in your letter, make sure it’s just a light apology but not too much of one. Make your letter brief, straight to the point, honest with a tint of curiosity in there. Thats about all you need..after that you should go back to your own life and live it. I’m not saying that you should give up if she doesn’t recopricate because the chances are you won’t see instant effects, but you should definitely go into No Contact for your own good and maintain your positive emotions for moving on and being a confident person who believes in their abilites.