As if the task of winning back an ex girlfriend isn’t hard enough, it could get quite tricky and even more challenging when she has a new man in her life. This however does not mean you throw in the towel. In fact, in some situations this could actually provide you with an opportunity to get back with your ex, provided you have patience and perseverance of course. Let’s discuss this further.
I wish I could give you the magic formula to win your ex back, but there isn’t such thing and that only means one thing, you have to make it happen the good old fashioned way, with sweat and hard work.
Convincing your ex girlfriend to breakup with her new boyfriend is a waste of time. I don’t doubt you would know this, but I also have no doubt you are quite desperate and desperate people do stupid things.
If you were smart enough to not make her hate you completely, we are in business and you still stand a very good chance at getting her back. I know you are not going to want to hear this, but in some capacity you may have to stick around as a friend. This absolutely does not mean that you have to play the third wheel, but there will be moments when you will have to play the role of a friend. We’ll discuss this further a little later on.
If your ex girlfriend did not come back to you say within a month after the breakup, you have to be willing to switch from the “sprint mode” to the “marathon mode”. You are in this for the long haul my friend, and I suggest you move on if you feel that your ex girlfriend is not worth the time and effort.
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It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that most romantic relationships end at some point and this is especially true for relationships that follow either a long-term relationship or a relationship that meant a lot to the people involved. In your case, we’d call your ex girlfriend’s new boyfriend a “rebound boyfriend” and these guys as we know, they don’t stick around for long.
You see, unlike the male counterpart, it takes quite some time for women to adjust to being in a new relationship. It’s not that they want their ex boyfriends back, not exactly, but they do like to use the ex boyfriends as sort of a measuring stick for their current boyfriends. Inevitably, this has a detrimental effect on a relationship and thus the need of a rebound boyfriend to get this out of their system.
Going back to my suggestion that you may have to play the role of a friend, don’t get me wrong, I don’t want you to reach out to her to become friends. But chances are very good that she will run into some problems in her new relationship and she will reach out to you to either to confide in you or because she may wonder what might have happened if she stayed with you. Even at this state, she still does not want you back, so don’t make the mistake of asking her to leave her new boyfriend or anything of that sort.
I simply want you to stop any and all communication with her. If she calls and I suspect that she will, answer it, but tell her you have company and that you will call her back. You don’t want her thinking that you make yourself available to her at all hours of the day. If she calls back before you do, then give her a chance to have her say this time and keep repeating this process for a while.
You may listen to what she has to say, but don’t be too opinionated. This is especially true when she starts talking about her new boyfriend, you may listen, but never let her know what you really think about her situation. Relationships are not an exact science, but I’m sure you can picture why this strategy can provide you with an ample opportunity to make her want you back.
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Hello Buda,
You would be right for continuing with your no contact approach. The Facebook unblock is just a start of things and although better than nothing, it means close to nothing in the context of getting back together one day.
I don’t want you to merely act like you are having fun, but I really want you going out there to have real fun. I’m not saying that you are putting up an act, but regardless of what the future might hold for you guys, it’s just better that you live your life fully without putting it on hold for your ex girlfriend. Anyhow, it’s good news and a good start. Keep up the good work Buda.
Hi Coach,
You mean that the unblocking is just a very minor progress is it? Not really quite a significant turn of events if that is what u means right?
And yeah,I was really having fun.Not just acting
Thanks Coach!
Hey Buda,
That’s exactly what I mean. But like I said, it is still a progress so it’s a good thing nonetheless.
Talk to you soon then, take care buddy.
Hi Coach,
I just wanna ask u something.Yesterday,my ex chatted with her friend in facebook.And the conversation was, well, about me.I found out abt it accidently.It wasnt my purpose to stalk her profile.I still in NC right.
My ex says a lot of horrible things about me.Cursing me and all.She even want to say fuc# off to me if she had the chance to do so.
So coach,clearly she still have grudges upon me even after more than 3 weeks of NC.But as ur advice,I take this as pinch of salt and I am not affected at all.
What is going on with her coach?Why does she still hate me? (If that is the case) Can u enlighten me on this one behaviour coach?
Ps,I am still in NC for more than 3 weeks.Doing better.Thanks Coach.
Hi Buda,
From what I remember, you guys have been broken up for three months now. So let me ask you, do you seriously think that she would still be talking smack about you if she cared so little for you? You know what they say, there’s a very thin line between love and hate. It wouldn’t be a good thing if she was chewing you out right after the break up. I mean, it’s certainly not better than her crying her eyes out for you to come back. But after three months, that’s quarter of a freaking year and you still find her talking about you.
In a weird way, your ex girlfriend is still not over you. This certainly doesn’t mean she’s ready to take you back, but it does mean she would be all over you if you could somehow channel all the emotions she has for you from hate to love. Easier said than done, right? Right, but it’s certainly better to have her still thinking about you, rather than her completely having forgotten your existence.
I still don’t like the idea of you trying to win her back, but I know I should respect your decision and this is what I can tell you about the situation. By the way buda, we have a brand new forum up and running. I know it’s a bit of a hassle, but I’d appreciate it if you could register in the forum and start posting questions to me in the “Ask Ex Back Coach” section. We’ll no longer do one-on-one help here. You find all the information you need to register in the reply below.
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hmm coach, check out registration process as I seem to be going to a wordpress blog now to set up my “admin” profile and can’t then find the forum? cheers Jon
Hey Jon,
It is only the first time that you will be taken to the admin area, so you can change your log-in preference. On top of the admin screen you will see the link that says “How to get my girlfriend back”, click on that and when you get to the homepage of the site just go the link on top left of the navigation for the forum. I apologize the confusion. I’ll find a way to facilitate the registration process. Thanks Jon.