If your ex girlfriend wants to talk to you for whatever reason, or if you suspect that your current girlfriend will breakup with you, then agree with everything she has to say. If she says she needs some time away from you, just go along with her idea and tell her that you feel the same way. She may say the relationship has been headed the wrong way for some time, then concur with her and tell her that you agree. Even if she wants to breakup with you, just give your blessing and tell her it’s the right decision.
Essentially what you are doing is taking control away from your girlfriend, because the control will dictate who gets dumped and who does the dumping. Every relationship has some elements of politics involved and when there’s confrontational communication involved, we jump at the chance to take control of the issue at hand.
Generally in this situation, your ex will tell you how she feels, you will ask why, then you will beg her to not leave you, she will have her closure, and you will be left alone with a big gaping wound. But by agreeing with everything she had to say, you have not allowed her to have closure because she did not get to dump you.
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Even though it may not have been true, you made her believe that you are strong, independent, confident, and that you are happy to put yourself back on the singles market.
Your Ex girlfriend expected completely different reaction from you and that will make her have second thoughts about her decision to leave you. When people do things as important as ending a relationship, they practice what they are going to say, they run it over a best friend at least once, they picture how things will go, and they put it into action when they have a pretty good idea of the outcome.
When this meticulously planned “dumping” suddenly feels like getting “dumped” instead, it’s not hard to imagine this will have a chaotic effect in one’s ability to think. And what do you do when all seems uncertain? You turn to the old, the constant, and the consistent, do you get my drift? She will turn to you for assuredness and your job is to be there for her to break the fall.
Unlike many “relationship experts” may have you believe, winning an ex back is not as hard as they make it out to be. But if you still find your self lost and confused, I suggest you take closer look at this “Get ex back” system, “The Ex Recovery System”. The materials in this system are top notch and it will do a fine job at giving you a step by step guide on getting your girlfriend back. As always, good luck and I hope you will be back with your girlfriend very soon.
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