When I give out advice on winning back an ex, I like to convince people to sort of find the calm in the storm. What I’ve found out through my experience in dealing with these people is that it’s hard to find the calmness or be cool after you get dumped by someone you love and trusted. So if you are one of those people, you’ll have to be cool or at least act cool if you would like to greatly increase your chance at winning back your ex.
Sitting at my desk comfortably writing about my experience and the experience of others, it’s too easy for me to tell you to accept the breakup and to try to find peace. So today I’ll go against my better judgment and advice you to act cool around your ex or anyone else that know the two of you.
One common mistake made by those who get dumped but who are still desperately in love, is misconstruing being cool as being mean to their ex girlfriend or boyfriend. I would also advice going against the jealousy tactic, it’s not only ineffective but often time it’s destructive to the point that it renders your chance at winning your ex back to zero.
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I want you to act cool, be aloof, reserved, you get the idea. Ideally you really want to be all that for real, but in order to avoid making irreversible mistakes you should at least act the part. If you show your true emotion right now you will cling on to your ex, call him or her every time you had a drink or two, wait for your ex in front of their house, spy on your ex, try to crack your ex’s email address password. Shall I continue?
I stress the point that Ideally, I would want you to embrace your current situation and be cool and collected in reality. We are having to resort to acting the part at least so we would refrain from making dumb mistakes we know you are fully capable of making at the moment. Let me put it this way, it would be quite a challenge to find someone dumber than a person who’s just been dumped by a lover. Yes, it hurts that much and it’s precisely the reason why you are going to act cool and stay away from your ex until you pull yourself together.
After certain period of time, be that a week or a month depending on your current state of mind. You will no longer have to put on an act because you will be more rational, you will be calmer, and you will be able to think with a much clearer mind. What you’ve essentially done is avert disaster and you’ve given yourself a chance to win back your ex.
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