You loved her and you knew she was the one, but now she’s gone and I know you want some answers. How did this happen and how can you get her back? There are some proven and effective ways that can help you get your girlfriend back, but you must practice patience and be willing to learn if you are going to be successful.
Before we proceed any further, ask yourself if you were truly happy with your ex girlfriend. Is this your emotional reaction to a sudden break up or do you really want her back? Getting back an ex girlfriend requires that you make a serious commitment and you must be sure that this is what you want. If you are sure of your feelings, then we can proceed to learning the ways to get your girlfriend back.
Step 1. You must rediscover the things that make her special. Every woman has that unique and irresistible quality that make them special and one that probably got your attention when you first started seeing her. Men forget those special qualities in their women as relationships age and we stop letting them know how special they are. If you still love her and if you are sincere about getting her back, then you must learn to appreciate her and make sure she knows that.
Step 2. Do not play blame games and admit to your own faults. It took both you and your ex girlfriend to build a relationship and I assure you that it took both of you to break it up. During the process of getting back together and or after getting back together, the problems you had before will surely resurface and this time around you must deal with them properly.
Step 3. Understand and ascertain what she wants. A big part of loving someone is helping them achieve their dreams. Try to understand what your girlfriend wants in her life, what her dreams are, and what she wants in a man. Once you start talking to her again, make sure you ask the right questions and she will know that you care about her deeply.
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Step 4. Go easy on her, slow is better. Don’t confess your undying love for her as soon as she starts to speak to you again. Be a good friend to her, listen to what she has to say, learn what she wants, and don’t put any unnecessary pressure on her. At some point you will have to reveal your true feelings for her, but try to understand her feelings first and your timing will be that much better.
Step 5. Be prepared to sweep her off her feet. A drunk and bearded ex boyfriend is not what she wants as her man. I stress this fact strongly, because it is very important that you stay in shape and live your live to the fullest. Do the opposite and you will be reaffirming her decision to leave you was a good one. Make your ex girlfriend regret her decision to leave you and be the man she swore you’d never be. Opportunities will open only if you are ready to take advantage of them.
Getting your girlfriend back is most definitely possible, but to succeed, you must give things time to develop and you must also use that time to get in touch with her needs. In the end, it could be one of the most rewarding experience in your life.
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I broke up with my girlfriend about a few months ago because I caught her cheating with another guy. We were together for a little over year when I found out about the new guy she was seeing. She lives with her brother and it was her brother who gave me the tip that she might be cheating on me. It took me a month to get the proof that she was cheating and I broke up with her not long after that. I work night shifts and sometimes I would go to my ex gf’s place and take a nap. Her home phone rang before I fell completely asleep and I picked up the phone at the same time as she did. She had no idea I was listening in and I got to hear them speak about all sorts of things that would drive a boyfriend mad. I thought she would happily dump me when I confronted her about her cheating but she cried and kept apologizing for hurting me. She said she went out with the guy 3 times and that she had no physical contact with him other than holding hands and hugging. I tried to forgive her and I tried to stay with her but ultimately it was too much for me to bear. I knew it was over the first time we had sex again after what happened because it wasn’t the same anymore. I almost felt dirty touching her and I couldn’t stop feeling the anger inside me. So I broke up with her but she called me a week later and she asked me if I could forgive her and she wanted me to take her back. I said no to her because I didn’t know if I could ever trust her again but the truth is that I still love her. I called her a few days ago and I told her that I wanted her back. She did a complete 180 on me and she told me that I had my chance and that she was over me. I still want her back but is it the right move? Is it best that I try to get over her? I know I still love her but I don’t know what to do.
Hello Ron,
It takes lots of time and effort to earn someone’s trust. Trust is generally reciprocated and that’s also when it’s at its strongest. So I wouldn’t be overstating when I say that earning someone’s trust is no easy feat. But what’s even harder than that is to earn back the trust of someone who once fully trusted you and lost that trust due to an experience of deceit. Earning back the trust, now that takes the difficulty to a whole another level.
She’s lost your trust by cheating on you and from what you tell me she hasn’t done much to earn it back. We are all capable of making mistakes and cheating on someone we love can be one of them. But what sets people apart are the ways they deal with the aftermath. It is totally OK for her to move on with her life from where she had left off after she’s been dumped by you, but from your point of view I do not think she deserves to have another chance with you.
I don’t think she’s done enough to show you that she truly wants you back. Apologies after cheating on your bf or gf is really a given and she took one stab at trying to get you back, which really seems lackluster to me. Cheaters will often do those things out of guilt or at times to make themselves feel better to sort of pat themselves in the back with the thought that they have done all they could.
Ultimately though, it’s all about the trust and in this case the trust that you do not have for your ex girlfriend. If a man feels dirty touching his woman and he feels anger when making love to her, then that’s a pretty clear sign that you might have reached the point of no return. This of course is overcomplicated by the fact that she doesn’t even want you back anymore and you are the one who will have to put all the efforts to build a trusting relationship with her all over again. If that doesn’t sound like a mission impossible to you, then you may be able to put a man on mars before NASA does.
Could you get her back? Sure you could. But would you want her back? In my opinion you definitely do not want her back. I think it is for her best and more importantly for your best that you guys go your separate ways now. The decisions you make after a break up are usually on how you can get your lover back, but more often than not, the real question you should be asking is if you should be getting your lover back at all.
hi,
i love my girlfriend very much. still we r working together in starting she said she also love me.but afterword i come to know she is talking in a phone with someone,when we r together sitting somebody is calling to her and she is haidding from me her phone.and she don’t hve time for me but she having a time for her friends she always telling me to i m going to meet my friends.and she spend whole night with them i don’t know she going to meet her friends or her ex boyfrd.so one day i told her broke up with.bcoz of she is cheating with me i done for her everything e.g money,time,love..etc.but same next day i call her to cme back again in my life.but she refuse.i m shocked i dont know wht i hve to do,so i call again her but she dont like to anser my call properly.so i shout her in her phone and i sad u play with my emotion feeling only for some money…now u dont want to talk to me also?
please advise me what i have to do i really miss her but she dont care of me…
Hello Mazher,
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